There will be a lot of people speaking about love in the next couple days, but few as articulate as you in this article, Gary. Much appreciated, it’s one I will come back to.
Your list of the Spanish verbs struck me as there are so many subtle differences that still impart the importance of love, affection, fondness, and respect. Thanks for the read.
Hope the transition is going as well as possible. Health is a precious thing. J
Precious and priceless which is why self-csre and prevention are the best “treatments” or gifts one can give to one’s self. Making some progress, slowly. Thanks!
Gary, I have just started a book called Come Of Age by Stephen Jenkinson recommended by someone here on substack. I thought of you and thought it would interest you.
Thanks for the link to Julian’s post—I’ve saved it and will listen to it soon. Anything by Jenkinson intrigues me—but he’s not for everyone so I always love learning how others relate both to him, how he uses language, and the content of which he speaks. I mean, I rarely get to talk with people about dying, death, and Elderhood. It’s been kind of a bummer, unfortunately, at family gatherings.
But I agree with you—it’s fun to find kindred spirits here.
Oh!!! Awesome! I would be very interested in learning your response and thoughts after reading it. It is THE book that put him “on the map.” I’ve read it three times now and will read it again. It is one of the things that has motivated me to become a hospice volunteer. I love Jenkinson—there are some incredible YouTube vids on his life and philosophy.
I was recommended jenkinson by a substacker! Cant figure out how to tag him. I love this place. I went down the his you tube rabbithole. Thankful to come across this elder during these elder deficient times.
Thanks, Brian. I had not thought about elevating our conversation around love and it's timely posting trying to insert itself among all the "I love you's" swirling around the next couple of days. Coincidence? Probably not. Synchronicity? Maybe. Tiimeless? Yes. I always welcome and appreciate your comments. PS. Sorry we had to leave wonderful Mexico. Our lovely little villa at Rancho Los Labradores is for sale, in quiet rural setting 15 km north of San Miguel de Allende. It is a delightful small house on a double lot with private garden on a quiet street. Flowers everywhere and superb gated community with superb amenities.
"We are loved into being and becoming who we are."
I appreciate this line and feel privileged that I've been able to live that kind of life. But I'm thinking, now, of what happens when that kind of love doesn't show up for someone. Is that what drives the kind of retributive behavior we're seeing so much of right now?
Yes, we have the ability to choose kindness. it costs nothing and is priceless. Kindness is always available and we would all do well to choose kindness and spread it around every day. That would be some kind of new and welcome epidemic. “Kindness is not random,” says Dr. Tara Cousineau. She explains that choosing kindness intentionally requires us to be compassionate, considerate, understanding and forgiving in a consistent manner, even on the days we may not feel like it. Authentic kindness requires genuine intention and effort on our part.
There will be a lot of people speaking about love in the next couple days, but few as articulate as you in this article, Gary. Much appreciated, it’s one I will come back to.
Just said to another reader’s comment, using the trite and true, “actions speak louder than words.”
Your list of the Spanish verbs struck me as there are so many subtle differences that still impart the importance of love, affection, fondness, and respect. Thanks for the read.
Hope the transition is going as well as possible. Health is a precious thing. J
Precious and priceless which is why self-csre and prevention are the best “treatments” or gifts one can give to one’s self. Making some progress, slowly. Thanks!
No pun intended, Gary…well, maybe a little bit…
I absolutely LOVE this post!!! ☺️
Absolutely? Wow! Thanks! I LOVE your response. Positively!
Such a timely piece. Love cannot ever be fully expressed in language, but sadly hate is easy to identify in the language of another.
Yes,Mimi. Better expressed by behaviors, more than words. Carefully chosen words count too but the old “actions speak louder than words” says it all.
Love is all there is.
Gary, I have just started a book called Come Of Age by Stephen Jenkinson recommended by someone here on substack. I thought of you and thought it would interest you.
A great book, that. And his Die Wise is even better.
Thanks for the link to Julian’s post—I’ve saved it and will listen to it soon. Anything by Jenkinson intrigues me—but he’s not for everyone so I always love learning how others relate both to him, how he uses language, and the content of which he speaks. I mean, I rarely get to talk with people about dying, death, and Elderhood. It’s been kind of a bummer, unfortunately, at family gatherings.
But I agree with you—it’s fun to find kindred spirits here.
Love it that you two have connected here. Yes, the special quality of “kindred spirits” is what makes our time spent here worthwhile.
I am adding that one to list too as I was a part of the death trade x 20 yrs in “healthcare.”
Thanks for the heads up.
Oh!!! Awesome! I would be very interested in learning your response and thoughts after reading it. It is THE book that put him “on the map.” I’ve read it three times now and will read it again. It is one of the things that has motivated me to become a hospice volunteer. I love Jenkinson—there are some incredible YouTube vids on his life and philosophy.
https://substack.com/@juliansummerhayes/note/c-92166925?r=bgypm&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=notes-share-action
I was recommended jenkinson by a substacker! Cant figure out how to tag him. I love this place. I went down the his you tube rabbithole. Thankful to come across this elder during these elder deficient times.
Nessa, you’ll like this:
https://youtu.be/H3daU3ZrNpw?si=SVUrroUHCd5YRm6K
Thanks, Brian. I had not thought about elevating our conversation around love and it's timely posting trying to insert itself among all the "I love you's" swirling around the next couple of days. Coincidence? Probably not. Synchronicity? Maybe. Tiimeless? Yes. I always welcome and appreciate your comments. PS. Sorry we had to leave wonderful Mexico. Our lovely little villa at Rancho Los Labradores is for sale, in quiet rural setting 15 km north of San Miguel de Allende. It is a delightful small house on a double lot with private garden on a quiet street. Flowers everywhere and superb gated community with superb amenities.
"We are loved into being and becoming who we are."
I appreciate this line and feel privileged that I've been able to live that kind of life. But I'm thinking, now, of what happens when that kind of love doesn't show up for someone. Is that what drives the kind of retributive behavior we're seeing so much of right now?
Thanks for channeling goodness, Gary.
Yes, we have the ability to choose kindness. it costs nothing and is priceless. Kindness is always available and we would all do well to choose kindness and spread it around every day. That would be some kind of new and welcome epidemic. “Kindness is not random,” says Dr. Tara Cousineau. She explains that choosing kindness intentionally requires us to be compassionate, considerate, understanding and forgiving in a consistent manner, even on the days we may not feel like it. Authentic kindness requires genuine intention and effort on our part.